Penindasan Online Itu Nyata, Bersatu Untuk Menghentikan Penindas

Memikirkan sesuatu — kunci untuk menjadi kreatif; memikirkan sesuatu — kunci untuk menjadi sukses, memikirkan sesuatu — kuncinya berdiri di atas kedua kaki Anda sendiri daripada mencari orang lain untuk membantu Anda berdiri. Memikirkan semuanya dengan hati-hati, sabar, dan perlahan hampir selalu memberi Anda hasil yang lebih baik daripada sekadar menanggapi serangan verbal dan pelecehan verbal secara membabi buta secara online.

Semua Jenis Di Luar Sana: Kadang-kadang mudah untuk melupakan bahwa ada  slot terbaru semua jenis di internet, semua jenis di papan pesan, ruang obrolan dan di area jaringan publik lainnya di web. Anda bertemu dengan beberapa orang biasa, orang-orang profesional, dan kemudian Anda menjadi nyaman berkomunikasi dengan mereka di papan pesan dan di ruang obrolan. Apa yang Anda lupakan adalah bahwa dalam campuran semua orang, di gado-gado ruang obrolan, ruang pesan, dan grup online, selalu ada beberapa yang mungkin terpaku pada Anda, terobsesi dengan Anda dan tidak toleran terhadap Anda sebagai manusia. Mereka memperhatikan bahwa Anda ada di sana, dan kemudian setelah mereka memilih Anda sebagai target, mereka memulai permainan kekanak-kanakan mereka untuk mencoba melakukan pertempuran verbal dengan Anda. Alasan mengapa Anda lupa bahwa orang-orang seperti ini ada di sana dan mereka ada di lingkaran jaringan Anda adalah karena kebanyakan orang tidak seperti mereka.

Tersembunyi di Sudut-sudut Gelap: Kemudian di sudut-sudut gelap beberapa grup online, papan pesan, dan ruang obrolan yang tersembunyi adalah si kecil yang, entah karena rasa tidak aman atau cemburu, menjadi terpaku pada Anda dan mulai mencaci-maki atau menyerang Anda secara verbal atau bahkan menjadi terpaku pada Anda. Mereka mungkin terus menulis kepada Anda atau menyapa Anda meskipun Anda jelas-jelas mengabaikannya dan tidak menjawabnya. Tidak ada yang tahu mengapa mereka menjadi terpaku pada satu individu tetapi apa yang mereka mulai lakukan adalah mengubah kata-kata Anda, salah mengutip Anda dan membaca sesuatu menjadi apa yang Anda tulis dalam upaya melukis gambaran tertentu tentang Anda di ruang obrolan atau grup online. Taruhan terbaik Anda adalah mengabaikannya karena mereka tidak layak untuk dijawab dan jika Anda menjawab, mereka mungkin tidak akan memahami Anda atau mereka hanya akan salah mengutip Anda atau membaca sesuatu ke dalam apa yang Anda tulis.

Tujuan Bully:

  • Untuk memisahkan Anda dari teman dan rekan Anda.
  • Untuk mempermalukan Anda, menyebabkan Anda terluka atau sakit.
  • Untuk mengambil sesuatu darimu
  • Hentikan kompetisi (Beberapa pengganggu cemburu ketika orang lain mencapai tujuan atau menjadi sukses).

Jadi, mengetahui itu adalah tujuan si penindas, dan mengetahui pilihan Anda dalam semua situasi memberi Anda kesadaran yang lebih baik tentang bagaimana memecahkan masalah.

Ruang Obrolan, Grup Online & Papan Pesan: Beberapa grup online, ruang obrolan, dan papan pesan dapat diisi dengan orang-orang seperti itu dan Anda mungkin tidak mengetahuinya sampai orang-orang itu mulai bertingkah seperti anak-anak (lebih buruk daripada anak-anak karena sebagian besar, anak-anak baik dan sifatnya baik). Jadi apa yang Anda lakukan ketika Anda bertemu dengan tipe orang online ini? Anda memiliki begitu banyak pilihan yang terbuka untuk Anda; itu adalah pilihan Anda opsi mana yang Anda gunakan.

Menangani Fiksasi, Pelecehan Verbal & Serangan Verbal: (Untuk Dewasa)

  1. Pertama, ketahui dan sadari bahwa tidak peduli apa yang orang itu ketik atau katakan tentang Anda, Anda adalah orang yang berharga, seorang individu yang hangat dan penuh perhatian yang tidak berkurang oleh apa yang orang lain rasakan, katakan, atau ketik tentang Anda.
  2. When the individual types to you, if that individual addresses you by names that you have told them not to use, or addresses you by name-calling, verbal attacks, accusations or verbal abuse, ignore the individual as you would ignore a child who is behaving badly. (In the real life situation of a child behaving badly, you would use a different method and you would reason, talk with, explain and communicate with the child but when an adult is acting like a child, you use the full ignore process).
  3. If the individual keeps it up, you can step up the ignore (by responding to other individuals in the group so that the offending person knows you are obviously ignoring them and the group knows you are obviously ignoring them). Sometimes when you are in a group online, an offender might not recognize they are being ignored if you do not participate with others. They, having great egos, might think that you are just away from the group or not at your computer, if you have no response to others in the group. So that is why it is important for you to make your presence known from time to time while ignoring the offending individual.
  4. Be you and do not become like them. (Most times they will become fixated on you and they will constantly badger you with messages or posts, with some that even make no sense. In their haste to respond to you in the group or chat room, they will type sentences -some which make no sense at all to the average person. So, by not responding in haste to them and by not feeling the need to answer them or answer them quickly, you stay out of their world even if you are in the same chat room or online group. When they post verbal abuse, name-calling or verbal put-downs or attacks, do not feel the need to immediately respond to them. (Sometimes people feel that they have to immediately defend themselves against verbal attacks and so they immediately answer, defending themselves in the group or chat room. The best reaction is no reaction. So if you can avoid responding, not matter what they have typed about you or to you, then that is your best option, avoid responding to them.
  5. Once they notice you are ignoring them, they might have a friend in the room type similar things or type a message directed to you. Feel free to ignor that friend also. Remember there are enough people in this world that you do not have to respond to every single person that types to or about you. Continue to ignore people who offend you, whether it is the original offender or their friend.
  6. Respond to those who are not taking part in the childish game that the offender has begun. Use your presence in the group or chat room to benefit you or your friends. You can enjoy being anywhere online as long as you know how to respond or not respond to individuals who are there for the sole purpose of verbally attacking people.
  7. Remember your purpose in the group, be there for that purpose, and enjoy the parts of the group that fit in with your reason for being there. Allow yourself to enjoy the group, the networking, the resources and the membership in the group or chat room by focusing on the positive and ignoring the negative.
  8. What Next? Many readers ask, what do I do when I ignore and ignore and keep ignoring but the individual seems fixated on demanding answers, demanding responses? What do I do when that individual ignores my ignoring him? That is a great question. It almost makes one smile, imagining the offender ignoring your attempts to ignore him. What would the average person do? The average person might be frustrated and then respond to the individual. They might resort to becoming like the person and responding in haste and responding in not a very nice way. However, you are different than the average person, so you will not respond like that, and you will continue to ignore the individual in that chat room or online group or message board. You never get anywhere by responding to people who are fixated on you and your presence. So, what do you do then? You still have many options open to you.

Try these:

  • Make a great effort to continue to ignore the person. (If you are in a chat room, you can leave your name in there and actually leave the room and go do the dishes or go write some letters to friends, go to the store or do things that take you away from the offender. By doing this, by leaving your name in the group but by not responding to the verbal attacker, they never know that you are not even there at the computer. You continue to ignore them and go about your daily routine. What this does is it allows you to have a presence in the chatroom or message board to show that you are not running away from a person who is apparently bullying you. Your name / presence remains, yet you do not get tangled in their verbal abuse or attacks because you are simply not there to see them.
  • You can leave the group or chat room, delete your name and presence from those places so that you have no further contact at all with the offender. This is not the best choice because by leaving there you lose contact with your friends — and all because of one offender. This is probably what the offender would want. After all, what bully would not want the victim to be separated from his friends? Bullies like people who are alone and separated from groups. So, by leaving, you separate yourself from the group, chat room or online message board , not just from the bully but from others in the group who are your friends.
  • You can begin your own group and invite people there and you can use that group for the purposes of your own networking and communication. You can still remain in the first online chat room, message board or group. Just because you begin your own group that does not mean that you have to run from the bully.
  • If the bullying, verbal attacks or verbal abuse continues, you can consider properly reporting the person to their internet service providers and to other authorities who handle those types of complaints.
  • Consider taking your time away from the message board, chat room or online group and focusing on improving your life, doing great positive things for yourself, expanding your horizons, and working more towards your goals. You can do this instead of spending that time in the group, networking or message board areas of the net. You can do things that you have been putting off for a long time. Now that you have this newly found time, you can achieve things that will heighten your position in your career or you can take actions that give you more time to spend with your friends and family. In other words, focus on yourself, rather than focus on the offending individual.
  • Take the false power away from the offender. (I will explain this in detail in another article and I will give examples and ideas on how to do this. One of the ways you can do this is to agree with the verbal attacker. (For example, if the verbal attacker states that you are stupid, you might have a response of something like, gee, you could be right, I must be stupid! You are saying this smiling, knowing that you are just humoring the verbal attacker. But by you agreeing with the offender, you have stopped his power to argue more about it. After all, what can he say now that you have already admitted you are stupid? Of course, everyone, including you, knows that you are not stupid, so the joke is not on you. But you have taken the power away from him by stopping his verbal attack cold. So, that is just one example of how to stop a bully. I will explain more and give more examples in a future article on the topic.

Merupakan respons alami manusia untuk ingin membela diri ketika kita bertemu penyerang verbal secara online, tetapi Anda harus melakukan semua yang dapat Anda lakukan untuk tidak menanggapi orang-orang ini di tempat online tersebut. Keluarkan diri Anda secara emosional. Tidak masalah jika pelaku sangat terlibat secara emosional dalam prosesnya, Anda keluar dari proses itu dengan meningkatkan pengalaman Anda sendiri dan dengan membawa lebih banyak kegembiraan dan kreativitas ke dalam hidup Anda sendiri. Anda bertanya bagaimana?

Coba ini:

  1. Mulailah situs web gratis Anda sendiri. Lakukan pencarian untuk situs web gratis dan lihat apa yang Anda dapatkan. Baca cetakan kecil dan ketahui apa yang Anda hadapi sebelum Anda menandatangani perjanjian apa pun.
  2. Pick up a hobby; take up tennis or yoga for a few hours a week. Improve your health and your lifestyle, improve your imagination and your creativity. Do this for yourself. What kind of hobby or sport are you interested in ?
  3. Write a book or an article about your different experiences. Be productive and creative. Since you have had the experience of being a victim of bullying, you might want to write an article about the topic.
  4. Start an online group on how to deal with bullies. You can start information sessions, groups or clubs at your places of business or in your own communities. This could be like a Pay It Forward type of experience. You can share your experience and at the same time, you can help others.
  5. Jika anak atau remaja Anda ditindas secara online [http://www.new-life.net/bigbully.htm], periksa situs web ini. Situs ini dan beberapa situs lainnya memiliki saran bagus tentang cara menghentikan pengganggu.

Intinya adalah ini, Anda harus membantu diri sendiri jika Anda ingin serangan verbal berhenti. Mengabaikan penindas online (jika Anda orang dewasa) adalah cara terbaik untuk melakukannya. (Anak-anak dan remaja harus segera melaporkan kejadian tersebut kepada orang tua, wali dan atau guru mereka). Salah satu cara terbaik untuk mengalahkan tujuan si penindas adalah melangkah lebih jauh dalam hidup Anda sendiri, mengambil langkah besar menuju tujuan Anda dan menjadi lebih terhubung daripada terputus. (Maksud kami daripada melarikan diri dari grup dan papan pesan online karena penindas telah membuat Anda takut, maju dan tetap terhubung dengan teman dan rekan Anda secara online dan di kehidupan nyata.
Saya mengerti bahwa korban yang ditindas mengalami kesulitan menikmati kehidupan normal karena pengganggu menyakiti orang. Ditindas bahkan dapat memengaruhi ingatan Anda. Jadi, ini untuk Anda, saya merangkum artikel ini dalam dua kalimat pendek sehingga Anda lebih mudah mengingat semua yang Anda baca di sini.

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